@Tattie@eldritch.cafe

· 4d ago

As I was laying in bed with my head on my girlfriend's chest, both of us relaxed and sleepy, she said these words to me:

"You make me so happy."

And I felt a rush of emotion. Something felt important, right then. I held the feeling aloft, peered into it.
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Tattie @Tattie@eldritch.cafe

· 5d ago

Me, cooking: "La, la... wait, why have I got 'La Bamba' stuck in my head?"

Girlfriend: "Because twenty minutes ago I was telling you about Tsar Bomba, the most powerful thermonuclear device ever tested."

Me: "... shit. You're right and all."

GF: "I know. I know my Tattie"

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Tattie @Tattie@eldritch.cafe

· 1mo ago

"Are trans women women?" is ideologically equivalent to "are adoptive mothers mothers?"

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Tattie @Tattie@eldritch.cafe

· 2mo ago

I'm low-key furious. A friend just took the immensely brave step of telling her GP she thinks she is trans and wants to go on hormones, and he (a cis, gay man) tried to "supportively" convince her that she wasn't really trans, because he "has trans friends" and knows that if she was really a woman "she would know". Fuck. That. Shithead. 1/

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Tattie @Tattie@eldritch.cafe

· 2mo ago

As a trans person, I'm bitterly familiar with the phenomenon where any misdeed committed by any other person who happens to be trans— no matter how far removed they are from me by any other measure— will be used to cast aspersions on my own morality and trustworthiness, because we "share an ideology". This is a post about Berlin.

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Tattie @Tattie@eldritch.cafe

· 2mo ago

I identify as a #plural system— to oversimplify, I feel that there is not so much a single cohesive "me" as a, well, plurality of them. With careful introspection I can notice myself switching between which version of me is "fronting", or observe myself to be operating in a more "blended" mode. 1/

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Tattie @Tattie@eldritch.cafe

· 2mo ago

Post-vaginoplasty sex (not explicit)

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Tattie @Tattie@eldritch.cafe

· 2mo ago

Happy International Non-binary People's Day! 🍌🕊️🍇🐈‍⬛

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Tattie @Tattie@eldritch.cafe

· 2mo ago

Boosted by @GroupNebula563@mastodon.social

Progressterone pride flag is this anything?

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Tattie @Tattie@eldritch.cafe

· 3mo ago

I regard with growing alarm the idea of "trauma dumping" as a supposed negative— that talking frankly about your troubles is variously unusual, rude, harmful, or even something to be punished. It seems to be verging even on an idea that trauma is somehow something which is infectious, spread by talking about. 1/

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Tattie @Tattie@eldritch.cafe

· 2mo ago

I think I've finally put my finger on another "Geek Social Fallacy". But first, if you're not familiar with the original, go and check it out https://plausiblydeniable.com/five-geek-social-fallacies/ (I know "geek" is a very dated descriptor, but the same observations continue to hold for a lot of communities, especially queer and/or neurodiverse ones). 1/

plausiblydeniable.com

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Tattie @Tattie@eldritch.cafe

· 3mo ago

Showing my girlfriend my favourite anime from way back, Disaster Queers Fuck About With Swords.

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Tattie @Tattie@eldritch.cafe

· 3mo ago

Replying to

@grumpygamer@mastodon.gamedev.place "What the fuck did you do to my fence? I'm not paying you for this!" "Looks fine to me." "All the cuts are splintered and jaggy! It's a health hazard." "Oh yeah, I didn't do that." "What? Who did?" "The chainsaw." "The... Huh?" "Yeah I'm a firm believer in automated tooling. Instead of spending time manually cutting and smoothing everything, I just trust the machine to do it all for me. It's so much faster." "I paid you expecting a certain level of quality to your work." "You can't blame me for poor workmanship. My hands never touched your fence. Take it up with the chainsaw if you have a problem with it."

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Tattie @Tattie@eldritch.cafe

· 4mo ago

From weeds to crops #gardening

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Tattie @Tattie@eldritch.cafe

· 2mo ago

Sex

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Tattie @Tattie@eldritch.cafe

· 2mo ago

Christ it's depressing the responses black people get to their posts on here. 😩

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Tattie @Tattie@eldritch.cafe

· 5mo ago

Replying to

Update: Rebecca Watson herself has chimed in on the situation. Wonderful! 😆 https://mstdn.social/@rebeccawatson/116527948702666630

mstdn.social

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Tattie @Tattie@eldritch.cafe

· 5mo ago

Replying to

@thatfrisiangirlish@blahaj.zone I think even in my angry atheist stage I always saw organised religion as a vector for injustice, and not the actual form of it. I remember arguing with other atheists that "yeah, but, plenty of horrible things have been done by secular governments too, even ones that are anti-religious", and the sheer mental gymnastics that prompted in response. Everything could be traced back to religion, I was told, and if we got rid of that, all injustice would somehow evaporate. That's an unfounded belief that struck me as ironically cultlike.

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Tattie @Tattie@eldritch.cafe

· 5mo ago

Replying to

@faithisleaping@anarres.family came here to say, well, basically exactly what you did. I feel I had some privileges that the cis women around me didn't, in certain situations. They also had privileges that I, a closeted trans woman, didn't. Similarly, since coming out and transitioning I've noticed a complex shift of privileges. On the whole tho I feel that the primary privilege I gained— of living as my authentic self— is more fundamental and valuable to me than all the ones I've lost by moving thru life as a woman. @revoluciana@chaosfem.tw

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Tattie @Tattie@eldritch.cafe

· 1mo ago

Boosted by @GroupNebula563@mastodon.social

Ok but why do we have forks in our vulvas??

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Tattie @Tattie@eldritch.cafe

· 4mo ago

Replying to

@Anomnomnomaly@beige.party well, you're on Fedi, so yes, probably. 👀 @catsalad@infosec.exchange

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Tattie @Tattie@eldritch.cafe

· 3mo ago

Replying to

@stuart@sozial.cyberpunk.gmbh hahaha! Didn't even see that at first glance @vagina_museum@masto.ai

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Tattie @Tattie@eldritch.cafe

· 2mo ago

Sex poll

Poll for people with a natal clitoris: when you get a clitoral erection ("ladyboner"), how physically noticeable is the sensation?

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Tattie @Tattie@eldritch.cafe

· 3mo ago

Replying to

@golgaloth@writing.exchange no pockets? No dice.

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Tattie @Tattie@eldritch.cafe

· 5mo ago

Replying to

@sinituulia yes! They are all so different. Zeph likes to come up near to where I am and start purring. This is not a request for stroking— he's quite touch-averse— he just likes to body double. @anotherdream

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Tattie @Tattie@eldritch.cafe

· 4mo ago

Replying to

@futzle@old.mermaid.town I mute the merely tiresome, and block the downright obnoxious. So often I've seen reply guys escalate their behaviour in later comment threads and become full-blown trolls with terrible opinions. It really makes sense to curate them out of my Fedi experience before that point.

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Tattie @Tattie@eldritch.cafe

· 5mo ago

Replying to

@Tooden@aus.social since Pratchett has already been shown some love in this thread I'll quote his idea that "treating people as things" is the root cause. Patriarchy— as the objectification of women— is perhaps the oldest instance of this, but see also colonialism, capitalism, feudalism... @thatfrisiangirlish@blahaj.zone

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Tattie @Tattie@eldritch.cafe

· 5mo ago

Replying to

@YouShallNotPass@chaosfem.tw "they were a boy, now they're a girl" Very quick actually.

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Tattie @Tattie@eldritch.cafe

· 5mo ago

Replying to

@thatfrisiangirlish@blahaj.zone this is such a good take, and something I've been grappling with in the past year or so as I embrace witchiness. I know my beliefs in this regard are unfounded, a matter of faith. Almost the point of it all is to sit with uncertainty, to be comfortable with not knowing. Peace necessitates being able to be in relation to others who might have wildly different philosophies, and to do that I think it's necessarily to have at least an inking of the contingent nature of our own belief system.

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Tattie @Tattie@eldritch.cafe

· 5mo ago

Replying to

@spottyfox@pounced-on.me something something pushing at the boundaries of the frame

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Tattie @Tattie@eldritch.cafe

· 5mo ago

Replying to

@low@lgbtqia.space yeah, quite a large chunk of what is written on privilege takes a framing of either comparing white men to white women, or white men to black men. There's a huge amount of unexplored territory wrt the experiences of other minorities, and intersectional identities. @doppelgrau@anarres.family @faithisleaping@anarres.family @revoluciana@chaosfem.tw

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Tattie @Tattie@eldritch.cafe

· 5mo ago

Replying to

@low@lgbtqia.space ok, an example: I was very much a slob; untidy and poorly dressed. It wasn't a choice, but an outcome of my deep shame at how I was going thru life. This wasn't conducive to a good social or romantic life. @faithisleaping@anarres.family @revoluciana@chaosfem.tw

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Tattie @Tattie@eldritch.cafe

· 4mo ago

Replying to

@spiegelmama@infosec.exchange we sure are! ✨🥔✨ @neckspike@indiepocalypse.social @Star12Mt@masto.nyc

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Tattie @Tattie@eldritch.cafe

· 4mo ago

Replying to

@spiegelmama@infosec.exchange oh my! @neckspike@indiepocalypse.social @Star12Mt@masto.nyc

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Tattie @Tattie@eldritch.cafe

· 3mo ago

Replying to

@pierrenick@hachyderm.io clever!

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Tattie @Tattie@eldritch.cafe

· 4mo ago

Replying to

@quixoticgeek@social.v.st I last had the flu in 2016. I've got the vaccine every single year since then. (Paid privately, but worth it).

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Tattie @Tattie@eldritch.cafe

· 5mo ago

Replying to

@allrite imagine the narration! @futzle

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Tattie @Tattie@eldritch.cafe

· 4mo ago

Replying to

@ghost_bird@weirder.earth holy shit those are good boots

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Tattie @Tattie@eldritch.cafe

· 4mo ago

Replying to

@JoscelynTransient@chaosfem.tw damn good thing for hitmen to know, on reflection. If I was a crime lord (Crime Lady?) I'd make my henches at least attend a course.

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Tattie @Tattie@eldritch.cafe

· 4mo ago

Replying to

@billgoats@bitbang.social I'll whisk it

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Tattie @Tattie@eldritch.cafe

· 4mo ago

Replying to

@maxleibman@beige.party probably one that's a lot better for your mental health than turning to ChatGPT for talk therapy @tayfonay@beige.party

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Tattie @Tattie@eldritch.cafe

· 4mo ago

Replying to

@NanoRaptor@bitbang.social it's not enough to just read about prehistory, we have to be there, experience it with all our senses. Yes, all our senses, did I stutter? @mjd@mathstodon.xyz

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Tattie @Tattie@eldritch.cafe

· 5mo ago

Replying to

@MisuseCase@twit.social I've written before on this, as I find it interestingly nuanced.

Typically the ex-Christian atheist would say "there's no such thing as a 'Christian' or 'Jewish' atheist, as atheism precludes religion", but that understanding is based specifically in Christian doctrine.

For this reason "Christian atheist" is indeed very much a contradiction in terms under most understandings*, whereas "Jewish atheist" definitely isn't.

one possible exception: Quakerism @laguiri@neopaquita.es

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Tattie @Tattie@eldritch.cafe

· 5mo ago

Replying to

@babble_endanger@freeradical.zone do you mean by that that it evolves into a game of literal points-scoring, with the main motivation being "number go up"?

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Tattie @Tattie@eldritch.cafe

· 5mo ago

Replying to

@GeoffWozniak no, just various parrots and other tropical birds @futzle

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Tattie @Tattie@eldritch.cafe

· 5mo ago

Replying to

💯 @foolishowl@social.coop @woozle@toot.cat @hedders@mas.to

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Tattie @Tattie@eldritch.cafe

· 5mo ago

Replying to

@Oggie yep. I went thru an obnoxious phase, but what I realise now is that I was grieving. I'd lost a personally meaningful relationship with a father figure (in God), and I was angry that I had been given that only for it to be taken away. And yeah, this was around about 20 years old. I was young, I'd been thrown out into the world to try to figure out where I fit, I was closeted to myself and the world, and I was struggling. I have compassion for the self I was back then. And then as I found happiness and security in life, I grew out of this phase. I learnt to find confidence in not knowing everything, to sit with the fundamental uncertainty of being. @inthehands

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Tattie @Tattie@eldritch.cafe

· 5mo ago

Replying to

Hi @rebeccawatson , thanks for this. I was wondering whether there should be a link at this point in the transcript? I won’t go more into that but if you’re interested, check out this video I made in 2022 on this topic, largely inspired by my having read Siddhartha and developing a finer understanding of the interconnectedness of all things in our Universe ...as I am indeed interested. 🙂

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Tattie @Tattie@eldritch.cafe

· 5mo ago

Replying to

@Tooden@aus.social you're right that I haven't explicitly explored that part. But I've said I want to draw a line under this, and you've been respectful of that on your part, so I'll stick to my guns 😅 Have a good day!

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