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Someone said that masculinity is best described as something that is not feminine. And I can’t stop thinking about that the most cherished and highly regarded trait (for some) is basically empty. It’s just a piece of paper with “not that” written on it.

@pathfinder@beige.party In my experience, who grew up constantly hearing I am wrong and I am supposed to do things other ways, asking or even accepting offered help most of my life felt dangerous. It felt the help from others would replace my way of seeing or solving things. The fundamental experience is when help is offered, I did not have a say in how it goes. I believe most of us, who are diagnosed late, are so internalised that help means accepting ‘their’ way of thinking, we have a hard time grasping the concept of someone genuinely wanting to help and willing to do it in our terms. When this happens and someone accepts how I want to solve things, to this day, it feels really strange, unknown. This dynamic, what we bring from our childhood, maybe more detrimental than any rigid thinking or yearning for independence. If help does not look safe, who would blame us for hesitating to accept it? @autistics@fedigroups.social

@alice@lgbtqia.space assertiveness is a big part, but I think not just that. Men¹ do not listen to women. So tha man who repeats your idea first and explains it to you back gets the credit from the others. The only thing that corrects them is if another man points out their behaviour. But it is ingrained so much that even calling out does not stop it from occurring again. Next time, they do the same. 💔

RE: https://cultofshiv.wtf/@SleepyCatten/116496065167201890 I see this in all sorts of places. Online and offline. Walk, talk, laugh, or do whatever makes it a little bearable. 💜

@h3mmy. Adding some eyelets if it needs to hold some weight? @alice

@alice the sad truth is if a man can’t profit from your body, you get punished 💜

@h3mmy@lgbtqia.space that’s a plum(p) curve right there. No surprise the little soider likes hanging there.

@RickiTarr@beige.party I know a Mildred. One of the wittiest and smartest people I know. And they’re trans. Nonbinary, to be more precise. Yes, we need more Mildreds.

@FoxesInLove@social.neonpaws.digital oh! Get well!

@midnakrystal@sadbitches.online how would you call it? I also heard deflecting laugh and smile.

@echedellelr@soc.masfloss.net how would you call it? I also heard deflecting laugh and smile.

@RoseyPosey@anarres.family :blobhaj_cathug:

@xYourEmoGFx :floofPat:

@alice @AltTextHealthCheck yay \o/

@CosmicCollective@mastodon.social I hope you're okay :neobot_hug_cat:

@catsalad@infosec.exchange for a second, I thought those were flames under them instead of legs. Like, what? Revenge of a cat? 🫣🤣

@me@jaehanley.social passports started listing sex/gender as early in the twentieth century. It is tied to the policing of the movement of women. (See League of Nations passport conference, 1920, 1926). What you are probably referring to is the ICAO standard from 1977, which mandates sex markers from participating countries.