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Jules
@quidcumque@rheinhessen.social
mastodon 4.7.3autistic parent (K1 11/18, K2 11/20, * 10/22, K3 10/23).
agender (and white).
writes (textbooks and book reviews).
teaches math (to engineering students).
likes science fiction (especially worldbuilding).
699 Followers
543 Following
50 Posts
Joined November 18, 2022
Pronouns:
DE: vi/vir, EN: ve/ver
Languages:
German, English, Dutch, Latin
This post just makes me go "speak for yourself, dude" 🙄
Really. Who is supposed to be part of this "we"?!
https://merveilles.town/@ccohanlon/117302606576150701
RE: https://mastodon.social/@warandpeas/117287684249803102
That's the pirate ship my kid should sail on!
(They have complained that other kids say you can't dress up as a pirate as a girl)
Today's good things included:
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survived family meeting (although it was very hot, very loud, and moderately annoying)
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a little rain during the night
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evening walk spent thinking about the structure of a story I'm writing
Today's good things included:
- being able to rest
- fun at the outdoor swimming pool
- kicking a ball alone with K2 in the evening
Today's good things included:
- safe arrival
- seeing the sea
- seeing kids see the sea
(Brought to you by the letter S, I guess.)
Today's good things included:
- very cool playground at the first stop
- made it home safely
- met neighbor friends just as we arrived and went off the the playground for an evening round
Sometimes I wish I could live a life with less belongings, less STUFF, again. Owning all these things weighs on me, even if I just own them by association with my family. I neither want nor need this many things.
(My family, on the other hand, wants to own all the stuff. Yeah.)
Today's good things included:
- social thing went ok despite a big change in plans
- spontaneous football match with K2 and a group of people doing sports in the park
- very good bread (made by me!)
Today's good things included:
- comfort from scripture and kind words
- swimming and running (can't decide)
- a beautiful moonrise
Today's good things included:
- time to think
- finished grading exam 1/3
- talking about books
Today's good things included:
- late evening run
- K3 being extra cute and sweet
- THIS SEMESTER'S TEACHING IS DONE!!!
Today's (okay, technically yesterday's) good things included:
- all things are packed
- K2 and K3 playing together
- evening run (with hares and bats and wide views)
All three kids are picky eaters (in very different ways, of course).
All three kids eat things they wouldn't touch at home on vacation 🤔 And not just new stuff, it's things we have at home but they refuse to eat as well.
What a strange phenomenon.
#AreWeThereYetYes
Today's good things included:
- good talk with K1
- good input for a meeting that's bound to be difficult
- a bat swooped directly over me while I was stretching after the evening run
Replying to
This esteemed colleague totally doesn't have any biases, a list:
- says female candidate couldn't answer technical questions, claims to have notes confirming this
- can't give any examples of an unanswered questions when pressed
- admits female candidate gave the better presentation, adds she must've had social skills training
- says female candidate doesn't have technical research focus, ignores male candidate's focus on very similar topics
Nothing to see here!!!
When I say the Lord's Prayer these days, "and lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from evil" get to me the most.
Because I feel tempted. Tempted to stop caring, protesting and helping; tempted to stop looking beyond my comfortable life. Tempted to stop hoping, to close my heart.
"Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good," says St Paul (Romans 12:21). It isn't easy. But I don't have to do it alone: thinking I must is also a temptation.
K2: I want cucumber
Me: I have apple, and carrots
K3: carrots that have been bitten in half by me!
Random question: this "high-masking" autistic type - is that more common in folks who also have ADHD?
(Anecdotal evidence says maybe, and it would explain why I have such a hard time with the concept - I feel that my autistic experience is rather different from that of the AuDHD folks)
#ActuallyAutistic
Today's good things included:
- colorful and friendly protest
- some rest after an exhausting week
- kids liked all the food I made them
Today's good things included:
- a very nice ferry ride
- a lot of walking, most of it nice
- a little quiet time in a church away from the noise outside
Talked about the Beatitudes yesterday. Today, I read Matthew 5 and sat with my discomfort.
My discomfort because I'm not perfect.
My discomfort concerning martyrdom.
My discomfort regarding the word "meek".
I try to shift the focus away from me. Blessings and joy to those who manage to be meek, who love their enemies, who turn the other cheek.
Blessings and joy to those who are merciful and persecuted for it, who are meek and work for righteousness.
K1 shows off their climbing skills while two older kids watch.
K1: I like doing that when older kids watch. Then they think I'm cool without me having to talk to them
Replying to
@Zahlenzauberin@dresden.network eben, es braucht "third spaces", die kostenlos, nicht zu Hause, aber auch nicht Arbeit oder Schule sind!
Und so richtig gern gesehen sind junge Menschen wirklich fast nirgends.
Bei den Kindern im Vor- und Grundschulalter finde ich es erstaunlich, wie extrem verschieden da die Radien, in denen sich die Kinder frei bewegen dürfen, sind. Interessanterweise wenig korreliert mit objektiver Gefahr z.B. im Verkehr.
@ju_les@mastodon.social @Drude@literatur.social
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@ju_les@mastodon.social mein Mantra in der Kirche (wo meine Kinder mitgehen und halt Kinder sind): "wenn ihr in 30 Jahren noch Mitglieder haben wollt, müsst ihr da jetzt durch".
Ich erlebe es aber auch sonst im öffentlichen Raum oft so: Kinder (und Jugendliche fast noch mehr) sollen in ihren Bereichen (zu Hause, Schule, Kita, Spielplatz, Sportverein) sein und nicht einfach so Raum einnehmen.
Der öffentliche Raum (Straßenverkehr) wird auch oft als gefährlich eingestuft.
@Drude@literatur.social
Replying to
@irina@wandering.shop eek! That sounds pretentious indeed. And it doesn't feel like it's playing to the cuisine's strengths. Rice porridge is comfort food!
(Not for me, though, the texture isn't my thing)
@halla@kde.social
Replying to
@michaela@meerjungfrauengrotte.de Danke!
Ich finde es immer schön, zu hören, welche Verse Menschen was bedeuten. Unser Diakon hat letzte Woche über "Ich bin der Weg, die Wahrheit Bund das Leben" gepredigt und auch sehr persönlich erzählt, was er damit - es war sein Weihespruch - verbindet.
(Und warum er fürs Frauendiakonat ist 😂)
Replying to
@SaySimonSay@eldritch.cafe d sieht man so Kinder und Jugendliche unter der Dusche, meine ich.
Today's good things included:
- less train chaos than expected
- having helpful advice for a student
- running, and thinking while doing it
Today's good things included:
- sun, wind and splashing around in the waves at high tide
- the red dusk's light reflected in little pools at low tide
- huge, sweet cherries fresh from the tree
Today's good things included:
- found pants that fit
- got yellow plums and veggies, gave back crumble and tomato sauce
- managed my spoons well
This weekend's good things included:
- smooth travels
- being out on my own
- meeting my best friend 💙💙💙
Replying to
@halla@kde.social I first encountered Korean food in Korea (had never had it before I went there), and my take is that it's basically German or Polish food with added chili and rice instead of potatoes.
Lots of fatty meat in sauce, soup with dumplings, and kimchi is like the really sour sauerkraut but with hot chili.
(I do like Korean food though, I enjoy the strong hot and sour flavors!)
Replying to
@irina@wandering.shop @halla@kde.social oh yes, pretentious photo alert! And the recipe sounds more like European rice pudding (made with milk!) than the rice porridge I remember.
Today's good things included:
- running
- was very productive despite having to fetch the younger kids early
- talked to best friend
(The last one feels ambivalent. I love talking to my friend, but she has a rough time right now, and I'm not sure whether I'm helpful or just annoying and pushy 😔)
Today's good things included:
- managed to stay calm and quiet and patient through everything the kids did, and that was a lot
- saw seals chilling on a sand bank
- looked at the horizon where the sea meets the sky
Today's good things included:
- outdoor swimming pool was not crowded at all
- homemade pizza
- being thankful for the internet's abundance in fern and cat pictures
Today's good things included:
- half an hour reading time while kids played
- evening run along the seashore
- as of today, I've been married for ten years
Today's good things included:
- nice feedback for my work as a diversity annoyance
- nice early morning light on the river's water
- nice partner bought me tasty ice-cream
Today's good things included:
- exam 2/3 is graded
- commute went smoothly
- went to the playground with the kids in the evening and we all got soaking wet during a rain shower
Today's good things included:
- stressful situations handled well
- cuddle pile time
- origami
Today's good things included:
- watching K3 thoroughly enjoy themself in the water
- the first three tomatoes of this season
- bible reading (yeah I know, but it's true, what can I say)
Replying to
@halla@kde.social or maybe there's just something about it that doesn't click with you. It happens with literature, and art, why shouldn't it with food?
Today's good things included:
- getting good input and new perspectives
- strong wind, big waves, sudden rainshowers
- seeing lots of love and solidarity and care